Yes, twin flame relationships can become toxic. “In a twin flame relationship, your twin flame may mirror your own issues, unhealthy habits, or imbalances,” Spinelli notes. “In addition, when twin flames are apart, they may have a hard time functioning. You may also end up defining your self-worth by the relationship. These aspects of the twin flame relationship can result in an unhealthy codependent relationship.”
There is also a tendency to give your twin flame unconditional love—aka, letting way too much slide. “Often, twin flame relationships are romanticized, and we tend to overlook some of the negative attributes of the relationship,” she adds.
“Twin flames are notorious for being tumultuous if not handled with care,” Kaiser adds. “If we don’t have self-love and awareness, they can become even more painful.”